Couples Therapy Grounded in Compassion and Evidence-Based Research

Learn proven tools, practice new skills, and create meaningful, lasting change.

Serving couples and individuals seeking therapy in Encinitas + online therapy across California and Arizona.

Gottman Method Couples Therapy

The Gottman Method is a structured, research-supported approach to couples therapy that teaches partners how to communicate more effectively, strengthen friendship, and manage conflict productively.

Struggling with constant arguments or emotional distance? I help couples:

  • Fix their communication patterns

  • Manage conflict in a productive and respectful ways

  • Rebuild trust after an affair and/or betrayal(s)

  • Rediscover friendship and intimacy after years of negativity

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Individual Counseling

IS-TDP (Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy) can help you quickly understand your emotions and conflicts so that you can feel better and make positive changes in your life.

In individual IS-TDP counseling, I help you:

  • Uncover emotional blocks that keep you stuck

  • Break free from self-sabotage in love, work, and daily life

  • Develop authentic confidence that comes from emotional clarity

  • Shift long-standing patterns at a core (personality) level

  • Stop people-pleasing and start honoring your needs

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How Therapy Works With Me

My work is active, structured, and grounded in research. Whether we’re working on your relationship or your individual patterns, therapy should help you move forward – not keep you in the same cycles.

In our work together, you’ll learn how to:

  • Identify the patterns that keep you stuck

  • Communicate more clearly and effectively

  • Work through emotional blocks that affect daily life

  • Build healthier ways of relating – for the long term

  • Use proven tools that support real and lasting change

If you'd like to learn more about my background, training, and approach, you can read more here.

Therapy on Your Terms – Encinitas Office or Online

Available for both couples therapy and individual counseling — in person or through online therapy. Whether you prefer meeting in the office or for online therapy from home, we’ll choose the format that supports your goals. While holding value for:

  • No pressure to stay in therapy forever

  • Your definition of progress — we focus only on what you want to change

  • Your time respected — practical tools that support real change

Testimonials

“Grayson saved our marriage. We were not going to last and we learned the skills we needed so that we can. I am confident that we will have another 30 years (or more) being happily married. I wish we just saw him sooner.”

Couple, Los Angeles, married 15 years

I could not recommend Grayson Wallen enough. Truly. The process of finding a good therapist is exhausting and sometimes feels defeating, but I knew I could trust Grayson to help me heal from the first session I had with him. He cares and you can feel that. He has clear and excellent boundaries, which makes you feel safe and sure that he is really there to support you whatever version of healing you are needing. His approach is not generic in any sense. If I could share a therapist with all my loved ones I would want them to see Grayson.

Female, San Diego, 30’s

Professional Endorsements

Grayson is effective at working with both individuals and couples. He is highly trained and well respected. His approach is direct and caring. I highly recommend him to anyone needing services!

Kim Panganiban, MA, LMFT, Certified Gottman Therapist

Grayson is a master when it comes to helping clients navigate difficult emotions with themselves and others. I trust him because he doesn't shy away from having the hard conversations that create real and lasting change in his client's lives.

Jessie Lee, MACC, LMFT

I wholeheartedly recommend Grayson. He brings warmth, skill, and clarity to his work with adult survivors of childhood trauma and high-conflict couples. His approach is active, supportive, and grounded in research-backed methods. His experience with military, first responders, and healthcare workers adds another layer of insight. If you're looking for a therapist who is engaged, compassionate, and effective—he’s an excellent choice!


Karen Del Fierro Monroy, MA, LCSW, PMH-C

Grayson is a therapist that will truly collaborate with you in reaching the core of your difficulties in a timely and compassionate manner. Having collaborated clinically, I know the passion and care he pours into his work and his patients reap the benefit.

Nicholas Furnari, MA

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Therapy Payment Options & Insurance Alternatives with CareCredit

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